4 step psychological framework to reset your finances
The system that makes saving automatic
This is something I learned the hard way.
If you try to stop or reduce overspending only with the help of your willpower, then I am afraid to tell you that it rarely works. It is like you are trying to hold your breath underwater, it doesn’t matter how hard you want to stay in it, but at some point your human living instincts will take over and you will rush to get air.
The digital environment is not designed to keep your wallet warm, it is made to fill the bags of corporations.
You don’t need to constantly tell yourself that you need to save more, that may help you save money to a degree but it is never enough. You just need to design a life, an environment where overspending is almost impossible.
Here’s the 4 step psychological framework to reset your finances:
1. Make It Invisible
Clear your digital environment because this is where the average person overspends $150-$250/month. It may not sound much but that makes it $1,800-$3,000/year and it is because every second email in your inbox is trying to sell you something, every shopping app is giving you notifications of sales on things that you didn’t even need. Your brain is being constantly, relentlessly triggered to spend on things you weren’t even thinking about five minutes ago.
The modern retail world is not designed to serve you, it’s designed so that it can exploit the way your brain responds to visual triggers, and they are extraordinarily good at it.
The fix is very simple, you just need to remove the triggers.
Unsubscribe from any newsletter that is not giving you any value and just wants to sell something. Delete the shopping apps from your phone, go buy things physically in a store, it is very much less likely that you will overspend like that. Remove auto-filled payment information from your browser so buying anything requires actual effort. Unfollow social media accounts that constantly make you want to buy things.
If you would never know about the flash sale, the new drop, or the limited time offer, the urge to spend will never come, because you cannot be tempted by something you can’t see.
This one change will help you save at least $1,000/year.
2. Make It Unattractive
Have you ever wondered why you crave buying things even when you know you shouldn’t?
Because shopping delivers a fast hit of dopamine. The anticipation of owning something new, that small feeling of a lifestyle upgrade. Your brain has associated spending with feeling good, and it chases that feeling on autopilot.
To break the craving you need to see needless spending differently from how you see it now.
Here’s how you can reframe your vision. I have been using this for a long time and it helps me a lot to eliminate overspending.
Take your after tax hourly wage, then calculate how many hours of your actual labour that item costs you. A $200 pair of shoes at $25/hr isn’t $200. It’s 8 hours of your hard work, a full working day. In that day you need to sit in traffic, you have to answer emails, and deal with a lot of stress, just for a pair of shoes you liked the appearance of.
When you make that calculation every time you are going to overspend, the desire to own the item reduces significantly because now it’s not just a transaction between you and a store. It’s a trade between you and your own time. And time, unlike money, can never be earned back.
3. Make It Difficult
The reason impulse buying is so common is because it’s been engineered to be effortless.
There’s no friction in spending. One click checkout, saved payment details, buy now pay later, same day delivery. The friction is deliberately being removed by big companies.
Your simple job is to add that friction back in.
The most effective tool I found is the 72 hour rule. Any time you want to buy something non-essential, you are not allowed to buy it immediately. You write it down on a wish list and you wait three full days before you’re allowed to check out.
Here’s the psychology behind why this works so powerfully. Almost every impulse purchase is driven by a temporary emotional wave. It could be boredom, stress, or just the excitement of acquiring something new. That wave may feel urgent and real in the moment, but it isn’t permanent.
By forcing a three day delay you remove the emotions from the equation, and when you go back to that wishlist, there will rarely be that emotional urgency of buying that thing. You’ll find that 90% of the time you don’t even want the item anymore. The desire was never really about the product, it was about the feeling in the moment.
Just let the emotions disappear and let your mind do the work.
4. Make It Unsatisfying
The fundamental problem with saving money as a habit is that it doesn’t feel rewarding.
Whereas spending feels immediately rewarding, you get the dopamine hit instantly, but saving is boring. It is invisible, like nothing is happening. There’s no rush, no excitement, or any satisfaction.
That is why saving is so hard to sustain on motivation alone. Your brain doesn’t get rewarded for it the way it gets rewarded for spending.
The solution is to create immediate consequences and immediate rewards for both sides of the equation.
Track your no-overspending days visually. Get a paper and stick it on your working table and tell your colleagues what this paper means, and circle the date when you didn’t overspend. Now when you have a streak, your mind deliberately chooses not to break it, because now overspending has a consequence. When your colleagues see that a date is not circled they may ask you if you broke your streak. What did you overspend on? That will force your mind not to overspend.
Your goal is to make saving feel like winning and spending feel like losing, and you will see how your behaviour shifts.
You need to understand one simple thing. Willpower is finite. It will run out at the end of a long day, it will disappear under stress, it won’t work when you are tired, bored, or emotionally overwhelmed.
But an environment that is made only to make saving your default setting runs whether you’re motivated or not. Remove the trigger points that force you to spend, reframe purchases in terms of real time cost, build deliberate friction between your emotions and your wallet, create immediate accountability for breaking your rules.
Just build a system and watch how your finances transform.
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That’s a really good framework if you are trying to manage your spending on purchases, but what if all your big spending is on food and drinks, what do you do then, because I doubt that the same framework applies.